By no means was I being sarcastic in any one of my thoughts or questions. If I had sarcasm in my tone I'd use on of the faces icon expressions.
I'm not in here to stick up for anyone or their beliefs...and quite honestly I'm not sure who you say I'm sticking up for. I apologize if it came across that way, I was just writing with my own thoughts and I have enough trouble expressing my own thoughts about things.
I was by no mean trying to generalize what makes a good friend, I was just genuinely wondering what makes a good friend for you, as you are right...we are all different...as I said before it allows me to see a different view on things, or consider things I haven't before...and I take what you say and filter it across my life to see if I have any similar experiences to be able to fully understand your point of view.
Nor was I suggesting you should sit around and take things like a doormat...not by any means should you keep your desires and needs to yourself...all I suggested is that you can't MAKE him want to do anything about it. All I mean is that he's either going to care about those desires and needs, or he isn't. You're absolutely right...he should stick to it...but if he doesn't, what is your next move? Do you continue to harp on how important it is for you that he not do that? My question is how do you change that cause and effect? Is there a compromise there you can't see because first you want him to be a particular way first?
I have never said anything on here that I didn't mean from my own heart and head. I tell what has worked for me, what hasn't or I ask the questions that have helped me conclude on my own...and you're certainly free to take it or leave it.
Nickel
"The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy."
