Life Is What You Make It.

[Underdog]

Pink,

I promise to come by later on, but your post reminded me of some stuff that some of us discussed a really long time ago. I had to dig into the bowels of the BB to get one of them, and when I have time, will seek out other threads of mine where Meredith and I discussed the intricate dynamics of our marriages--which are eerily familiar to yours.

Former thread

I'm pointing you here because of the discussion--which contains an exercise I'd like you to consider doing. Please read everyone's responses and I think you might discover some interesting observations in your own R with your H?

You know Betsey... The only friends H has are those he drinks with. His family do not live locally. I think it is important to him to keep these friendships alive with his mates; he may see them as a safety net in case things go wrong between us. They have very little in common other than they like to srink beer and watch football... I don't see them as a threat or anything..

This paragraph really disturbed me, Pink. For one, I could have written it myself. But instead of asking you to see this as a threat (as it was in mine), can you tell me if he does allow family and friends to get really close to him? Or does this set up feed his choice to keep at a distance from other people?

Just want to hear you expand some...

Betsey