Thanks totallyconfused.

I am a bit slow on the gal technique I have made a start though. I have invested in some new clothes. Some stuff I wouldn't normally wear, closer fitting and more fashionable. They make me feel so good and I think tha makes a difference to how I behave somehow.

I am reading lots of selp help books and although I *keep* backsliding...they occasions are fewr and further between. I am more aware of what I am doing and recovering quicker from them.

I am also starting to ask for what I want realising that H is not a mind reader

I do need to do stuff away from the house...but there never seems to be th time.... must work on that. Time management etc.

Thanks for your post

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