Hi Pink, I can tell you what worked for me. I GAL'ed big time. I began having a "life". I no longer "appeared" like I was sitting around waiting for my H. I began meeting girlfriends for dinner/drinks. (Didn't do this too much before, 'cause I was always concerned about H.) I started doing many things for myself. I had two very close girlfriends that I would shop with. I (pretty much) bought a whole new wardrobe. They helped me move into another direction. I guess, I could've been considered a very conservative dresser (previously). I got a new haircut .. oh yes and some very daring (for me!) streaks in my hair. I began .. just not being as available as I always had been previously. I "found" places to go. For example, I would take a ride to the local bookstore and sit there for a couple hours with a cappucino and peruse many books. Use your imagination .. start "doing" for you! As hard as it is to imagine .. doing some of the things that you like .. for "you" .. it helps with your outlook. That in turn reflects to others .. (your H?)
My thoughts .. about why our H's take us for granted so much, is because they know we are always going to be there! It took some time (maybe six months or so) but my H started changing his "taking for granted" tactics .. and he didn't even know it! (Still doesn't!!)
I know that this approach does not work for everyone. Like I said .. I just thought I would let you know what worked for me.
