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I wonder too if hes felt it and now playing games with you? Probley not the best way to win you back!!! You not being able to share your feelings and needs with him just doesnt seem right, youd hope hed want nothing more than to be supportive and understanding.



Thanks BLK.

Since starting DBing I have noticed that my H is a *natural* DBer. he doesn't read this site, or any of the self help books but he just does all the stuff that LBS are supposed to do. He has never begged pleaded or cried for me to come back. He has been patient and accepting of things I do. Let me tell you this it is *SO* annoyoing You just can't push his buttons. I don't think he has any LOL.

I don't think he does play games. He is thoughtless at times, but then I think that is genuine and not as to cause a reaction in me. He is genuinely surprised when he does something that he thinks is OK and I get upset about it. He doesn't really 'get' relationships I don't think. He's a very literal thinker, goal orientated. Not an emotional one like me. He just doesn't get why I am so emotional.

I suppose the R is a very small part of his life. He has his work, a teaching course he is doing, a data base to run, family and friends to keep up with etc. For me this is it. I have very little going on outside the R, so when things go a little wobbly I blow it out of proportion. I've made headway with that though. I have joined the gym at long last and have been looking through some info about a college course I can get onto (part time evenings) I have going to have a go at web designing. Something I havebeen interested in for the longest of time. I am hoping my not focsing *so* much on the family and H, I can chill out a little...
Thanks for your reply.

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