Letting Go and Holding On

[Confused_in_AZ]

Hello all...have been busy and somewhat lurking but nothing really new to report. Same old craziness.

W and I have been dating (if that is what you want to call it). Going to dinner, movies, etc. Have a good time but really I am not feeling anything from her. Seeing no changes from her. She is so busy with work and things are tumbling in on her department that I know that takes alot out of her. Try to be there to listen and support without making solutions for her. Just listening.

The other night I told her that I was not happy with where we were heading. That I am not sure if my needs can be met in the relationship b/c we don't have the intimacy in our relationship. That is by her choice.

Not sure what to do? When I bring these things up, she says thank you for telling me how you feel....then nothing? Doesn't tell me what she feels or thinks....doesn't make any changes....just stays the same.

What do you do? I am not sure if I can do this for much longer. Thinking that she has given up and maybe I am stupid for trying to make this work. Not sure what I can do other than continue to focus on myself.

Made a new list of things to do and trying to distance myself and learn to live without her (told her that is something that I am learning to do).

Any insight? Why do they just soak up our changes and our feelings and then just stay in neutral?