Hi Sheila and Big Al If you wouldn't mind I would like to join this conversation. By the way my name is also Sheila! Out of nowhere my H had an affair (something I never thought he would choose to do) last September. I think it has ended (although since they work together I cannot be completely sure). He has been going out to bars and spending hundreds of dollars (that we don't have). Although he is only 37 I see signs of a midlife crisis in him. In November as I was pursuing him in a relationship talk he told me "he loves and cares about me but is not in love with me and is not attracted to me anymore". Of course being the type A fixer that I am I immediately got on the computer, ordered all kinds of relationship books (basically wasted alot of money) Then I found this website. I have DB and DR and I have been debating on paying the $130 for a phone consultation. Anyway to get to my question; my husband did not move out (kids and finances probably prevented that), we still share the same bedroom (as roommates), he started wearing his wedding ring again a couple of weeks ago and as long as I don't bring up our relationship we get along fantastic. But...I cannot live without intimacy or affection. The only thing I get from him is a hug on his way to work. I know I am rambling, but any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
