Thanks for the advice Bud and VJ. I did end up going to my in-laws. I could tell by what H said that he was expecting me to go, so I did.
Didn't go too bad. His parents acted very pleasant and I could tell they were trying. His Mom actually relaxed and talked awhile with me. Pretty much like past Christmases, but no tension (maybe because we said what needed to be said). Kids had a great time, so I'm glad I went. Time will tell if that R improves or stays the same. But like I said earlier.. it's not a biggie to me as long as H and the kids are happy. D11 has had her feelings hurt a lot by H's parents the last 10 months and she was worried about going. She doesnt know how to act. She wants to love them like she loves everyone else, but they are receptive to that. So, I told her that she doesn't have to be lovey with them unless she wants to and if she wants to, it's their problem how they take it. She decided to just play with her cousins and be happy and that's what she did. DB at work? hehe Maybe, there were hugs and kisses before we left and she seemed happy.
Gloomy, but fun day here. The boys haven't had a chance to get their riding toys or new bicycles out. They haven't missed a beat playing inside though! Crazy making here!
S19 and I are coming down with a something we hope isnt the flu. We're both achy and getting hoarse, but feel alright otherwise. Everyone is quiet now, napping or watching TV and wow.. it's nice. Just to have our family together after not think we would be this year. H hasnt been taking his anti-depressants the last few days. He's been irritable and trying to manage, but I can tell he's struggling. It's strange though how open the kids are about it. He snapped at S5 about something while we were getting ready to eat and D11 said "someone didnt take their medicine today!" S19 said, "you can tell too?" and H said "Yeah, yeah, I know. Everyone else can be a smarta*ss and get away with it, but if I have a moment, it's because of my medicine!" So, he thinks we're picking on him too so I'm trying really really hard not to say anything and to be supportive. H is managing, I just hope he gets back on his meds because it's nice when he doesn't have to try so hard and can relax and enjoy our time together.
