Thanks for the advice VJ! I admire the way you handle things.. and I'm leaning towards going at this point. You're right, I could be there for H and the kids. I've pretended for years, what's another one? Except H has opened a can of worms with his parents this year.. and I've tried to stay out of it but be supportive. Maybe this is another way to just be supportive of how he wants to handle his R with them. Me and S19 basically take the attitude that we can take them or leave them, but H and D11 have both been very angry at H's parents the last 6 months and it's kept us from attending some family functions I personally think we should have attended (for the kids).
Why he want to share Christmas I dont know.. and it's confusing for us until he either sorts things out with his family or decides not to see them anymore. We don't know if he likes them today or is angry.. it's hard. His psych told him he needs to make a decision. Maybe today will help him do that.
I hope you have a wonderful Christmas VJ!!! Enjoy the kids and do a lot of laughing!
