Sheila...I don't have a bunch of time right now, but I think you did great! You can speak to S19 so openly and honestly, and he gets what you are saying without taking offense to it. And if you can help him along, at this young age, with some of the wisdom it took us years (and lots of heartache) to learn, well, that is just a blessing for him!
Way to go! I'll stop back later today when I've got more time. VJ