Letting Go and Holding On

[Burgbud]

Hooray for H! I'll say it again: I knew I liked that guy! He's doing so well!! Now he's going to do something stupid in the next couple of days and it'll screw up my good mood!!!

So you keep holding onto these excellent positives and I'll hang on to the negative expectations for you.

I'd tell you to let him know that if he ends up breaking your heart he's gonna break my little heart, too, but he doesn't need the pressure.


I've been happy, cheerful, positive, detached but loving and it's helped him to relax and be happy too.

Nice.


He said he's just so "grateful" that I'm happy again. Is that because he feels guilty when I'm unhappy and thinks he's caused it?

At a minimum he worries about it when you're not happy. Which isn't your problem, is it? I mean, you being happy is your problem but not him worrying about when you're not, or feeling guilty about it if you're not.

An hey, everybody likes being around somebody who's happy. You know how you feel when he's around and unhappy, right? (I mean it would be good to be a little detached so his mood doesn't affect you much...but you get the point.)

This certainly seems a good opportunity to do more of what works...