Did you notice that earlier you said you thought he wanted to have an R talk and you didn't want to? You said it would be same ole, same ole - he would apologize and promise to do better (God that sounds so familiar - me to my x about 10 months ago). Then, you said you wanted to talk and he didn't want to.
You are right in that he processes things differently, but maybe he doesn't want to talk because he sees the pattern too. I know I did. Somehow, I couldn't stop it though.
I think today, you both found a different way. You did acts of service for him because you love him. He didn't jump into the usual disputes over food because he loves you. Some things are working and I am so happy for you.
