Earlier in the summer when she was doing this, I felt like she was getting stuff out and using it to help heal. Now she's just venting anger, or trying to keep me in line with blame. I'm not as interested in that. So we'll see.
If you take care of your health for you, and your responsibilities, and basically get in a good place, then those things might make it safe again.
You know, I wonder if he's a little scared that if he really focuses on himself and not for your benefit, his feelings for you might fade? I don't think they would, we see that a lot on the boards. But it's scary to let go of that connection and actually do things for yourself. If he can make that step he might really start to have success, and feel worthy of your R. Could be!
But you're right about waiting for actions and you seem to really be accepting where you are headed right now. Just remember how to get back to that when/if something happens and you slip off it a little!
And I keep forgetting to tell you, way back when we had a discussion on caffeine injestion, I really cut back after that! Well, not so much today, but in general. It's actually more expensive because I buy two Diet cokes from the machine at work (total $1.20) instead of buying a 2L bottle at the store ($.99). But that means I drink two cans instead of two liters. So that's a good step for me, thanks to your thread!
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