Thanks Bud. It's strange to read S_H's thread and think it might be me posting about splitting things up in a few months. Reading about her H not paying his bills, him selling his truck and her being sad really hit home. She said she knows she has to walk away or else face a lifetime of irresponsibility. Ouch.. so true Just what she says about her H could be said about mine. The main diff between my H and many on here is that his OW ended the A and sent him scurrying back home. Sigh...

Oh and your replies are always more than decent.. they're usually just what I need at the moment, so THANKS!

Sheila