MAGNETO HYDRO DYNAMICS (MHD) and Love?

[Becca1975]

Works on paper Mrs NOP, but I don't think I could take her moans and sighs. Besides that is mans work.

Why Lou...I'm tempted to smack you! There is no such thing as mens work and womens work, I don't care what school you went to.

Also, I can relate to the growing up poor. I have an honest to gosh panic if I open my pantry door and it is not full. As an adult I've gone hungry so that the kids can eat. I did not have the fancy toys and clothes and things that my friends had in school. Actually I should say classmates had, because I didn't have many friends because I was one of the poor kids. When you can't have the latest clothes and can't play volleyball and can't join clubs because #1, the money isn't there but #2, unless your mom will come pick you up on a tractor because you live 13 miles out of town and there IS no other transportation, you can't.

Because of that, I have always been a horder and I'll be honest and forthright and admit that if the money was/is there, I will go overboard trying to buy things to give myself a level of comfort. I splurged after 4 years and bought a new bedding set a few months ago. Got it and wasn't sure I liked it on my bed as much as I did in the picture of the store ad. When it didn't do it for me, I started looking at other sets. Because you see, I keep expecting to create this bedroom that i can crawl into and feel totally content because the lady in the picture looks that way and i want to feel that way so badly. Problem is, try as i may, I don't find that contentness.

I think that is a pretty common problem. We all have the emptiness inside of us that we think we can fill with things. I don't have the answer to that but I long for the days of old where you ate what you grew and money didn't matter so much because you had the tools and knowledge to grow and make what you need. Now...it would cost more money to plant a garden than to just buy the produce. In fact, that very line could be a significant metaphor for the whole thing.

Easy solution to BB's money problems, give her a budget to spend to her hearts content. Be it $20 a month or $500. What you can afford. What she wants for herself, outside of basic necessities, she can find a way to buy out of that money. Once it is gone, she has to wait. I'm all for joint control and not telling someone NO to something they really want to have, but that won't save you from the poorhouse when the money is gone.

FYI, I've found that saving money can be just as addicting as spending it. I opened a Sharebuilder account a few months ago and watching the money grow in there (ok, so there is $120 in there, $20 a month goes in) is as entertaining as any tv show. I might make .30 cents this month, but it just gets addicting in its own way. BB could probably benefit from sitting down with a financial advisor with you (i think I've said that before) and getting a snapshot of what life will be like if money isn't spent more wisely. Get her addicted to saving instead of spending and you will have it made.

THe sex problems I can't fix, I can only say that women are turned on by different things and the drive IS in her, you just have to find what it is that pushes the right button. Some women like sensitivity, me personally, I'd like my H to just TELL me we are going to and get on with business. If i wasn't in the mood before, it would put me in the mood, just seeing the aggressiveness from him. Instead he is tentative when he approaches me and that really does nothing for me. What I am saying is no two women are alike, try different approaches and when you find something that seems to work, experiment with it.