Re Lil ------------------- Well... maybe the Bronze Age or the Iron Age... ------------------- How about post WWII expansion, throw in some 1930 depression out of work situations, the pack-man thing, some Internet hype, a Y2K scare-not, and an iPod generation.
--------------------- Just kidding, Lou. BB goes overboard, definitely. That she should be paired with someone who is so retail-istically conservative is a great irony (and something Jung would love). BB is showing you your shadow-- a part of yourself that you are positive is not there. ----------------------- My shadow????? Back to something like the “Johari Window,” the frame others see that I don’t and throw in a little of the hidden to all frame???
-------------------- But she's showing you symbolically-- in code. Do you have your Captain Midnight Decoder Ring? http://www.irememberhamlet.com/captainmidnight.html ------------------ Decoder Ring information: The sponsor of the program was Ovaltine, a chocolate milk mix. To get the decoder ring, one had to send in so many foil tops from Ovaltine along with a quarter and it would be sent by return mail. Ovaltine was an extra expense to our family and a quarter was about two and a half week’s allowance. --------------------- Dang! I never had one Lil. We did not buy much chocolate flavoring for milk or much milk for that matter. I never got an allowance.
I am on this site looking for some decoder ring tips.
------------------- Maybe somewhere inside you is a Little Lou who wanted things but wasn't allowed to have them, didn't have the money, parents wouldn't buy them... so he taught himself not to want. ------------------ Pre school Lou wanted and got an Erector set. Second grade Lou wanted a Wizzer Motok Bike but got a regular beater bike (first bike) when in 6th. Grade. http://www.whizzermotorbike.com/
Big Lou wanted a 1965 Mustang but the wizard of OZ showed him they were Falcons under the sheet metal so Lou bought the Falcon car instead.
The “Wizard” taught Lou how to look behind the curtain to see what consumer goods are really made from. The “Wizard” did not have many tips or a curtain about R’s and Marriage on that day.
-------------------- His mom used to criticize him by saying, "You've got the willies and the wants," like it was a bad thing. And his first wife carried on the tradition. She handled the finances and gave him $10 cash allowance each week for 25+ years. --------------------- Bad situation Lil.
I worked fulltime and a part-time job most of my adult life. I always had money. Full time job, paycheck went into the checking account that BB had. My part time jobs paid for tools so I could do more work, landscaping, dance lessons, vacations, extras for the house (used pay check for house toys) and for some cars we drove.
Target opened in town and we used to spend $200, sometimes $400 (1978) a month for needed and fun items monthly. Sunday AM, read the paper, see what was on sale, go to church, eat lunch at Burger King, go to Target buy some of the fun things that were on sale, go to another store and buy a couple of items that were on sale or trendy things, like today’s iPods but Pack-man and cassette tapes then.
Target addiction was so bad, we used to go Sat evening and look at was being stacked for re-pricing for the Sunday sale. We would try to guess what was going to be on sale and always looked at the promotion/mark-down isle.
------------------------ It was so much fun for me when we first got together for me to buy him nice things... a leather briefcase, nice slippers, etc. One day we received a check for several thousand dollars in the mail unexpectedly (bequest from a great aunt) and I insisted he fulfill one of the wants he had talked about for years: we built a pottery shop and he took pottery lessons. ------------------------- Lil, bless you for being so kind and thinking and doing things for your late H.
--------------- He became quite a good potter during the last four or five years of his life. But I digress (as usual). ----------------- Digress as needed. I remember the pottery stories. They were good.
------------------ I'll bet all the while Grown Up Lou is annoyed and irritated by BB's irresponsible "getting" and "buying" and denying herself nothing... Little Lou is secretly delighted and envious and wishes so much that he or someone could be so generous to himself. -------------------- Grown Up Lou is annoyed and irritated by BB's irresponsible but more so that she does not seem to appreciate what we bought as a couple (my way of thinking) says it was only something she went along with to keep the peace. Grown up Lou sees grown up? BB as “if it is not her idea, she wont like it.” BB buys based on looks, Lou buys based on what is inside.
Little Lou sees how much work went into acquiring and maintaining things, that things don’t buy friendship and respect. Little Lou sees the people that don’t have what little Lou had. Little Lou sees that some people get too big for their britches and lose almost everything.
Little 5-year-old Lou knows dad died a couple of years ago and mom gets $40 a month and he annd his sister each get $20 a month. Little Lou knows the rent is $35 a month. Little Lou knows a lot of other things but does not know how they all play out to the end.
-------------------- After my husband died when I reflected on how I showered him with whatever he wanted (not just stuff, but I was committed to making his life wonderful), -------------------- The Not just stuff is the part that interests me. Stuff is what is at the stores. I see smiles at the stores but not much love that I can take home and hold, that is holding me back.
------------- I realized that while I loved doing these things for him, what I also wanted was for someone to be that committed to making MY life wonderful! ------------- What would have “making your life wonderful” looked like to him then, to you then and to you now?
--------------- He loved me, but he did not express his love in that way. ------------ How did he make you feel appreciated / loved. I am thinking about how many people say their SO is giving their version of the 5LL (HDH’s giving PT but the W wants WOA)
------------ My bf IS and Acts of Service guy... but lacks the sexual interest. ------------- So bf is a 10 AOS, a 1?(or your number) in the sex dept, a 5 in gifts but you would trade some of the 10 in AOS for a 4 in the sex dept?
-------------- and the wheel goes round and round... --------------- That is why we all post.
------------------ What do you want, Lou, that you deny yourself? ----------------- First most trendy things don’t count. What I want is to be with someone: mentally stable, heterosexual monogamous female about my age with common interests, that is interested in me before the pets, (pets are fine and need proper care but not above people) or some world problems that deal with superiority or religion, do some reasonably priced traveling, interested in personal health, have a moderate exercise program in place, has friends, reads books, has a variety of interests but not radical.
Re QOE100 ------------------ Seriously, what would really make you gush like a girl......other than a great romp with BB? ----------------- Jill, for you, and I would like to see you blush too. How about a month in the southern states going from National Park to National Park in a small motor home, with a couple bottles of Arbor Mist wine, some diet coke, some grilled food and sex at least once a day and twice on Sat and Sundays. Throw in a couple of mountain bikes and maybe we could find some interesting rocks, plants, and flowers. No not in malls, Jill! In the forests and fields dear girl.
I know it will be close quarters in the camper so we can go to a couple of malls to window shop. One rule is if anyone buys more than will fill a banana box, something has to go. After a month of that I don’t know what I want. Well that was from 21 year old Lou.
The adult Lou does not want to inflict too much mental stress on anyone, does not want to be selfish so is proceeding with caution.
Lou. That is what I think now. Life changes and so do I.
