Quote: I can’t recall reading anything in your posts that I would remotely call actively controlling
Well BB thinks of me as her dad sometimes and tells me I don't allow her to buy the things she wants, when she wants them, with her money.
We have different wants and ways to look at life. According to the co-dependency books, she should be allowed to have most of the things she wants and I should go along with it and I should do my own thing.
Maybe we were too emeshed but this separate, my way, your way model is not working for me as well as it does for some people.
