Quote: MrsNOP's decision to address our marital issues with me, altered both of us, and the course of our marriage. We both ate a lot crap, and a lot of crow, but we gained our marriage back
I am working on addressing issues fairly but don't think we are there. We both say some similar things but some how they sound like one sided or accusatory.
Quote: I can tell you that your marriage, even if it fails, is worth fighting for. If nothing else, you will be a better person for the effort.
I agree. I need to make some changes in me, practice supportive behaviors towards BB but not be a push over. Improve my skills when to say yes and when to say no with out being controlling.
Quote: You will also be less likely to repeat the same mistakes with a new partner.
The process helps with the current partner too but it is so draining sometimes. And yes, I don’t want to do this again with so much invested/dreamed for/ hoped for. I also don't want anyone I live with to have to go through what BB is feeling now. Not fun for either of us.
Quote: I don't know if I have answered your question,
The answer I read into your answer is you would have eventually walked if both of you had not started to make some progress in some areas of the M.
Mrs. NOP said she felt she was not being heard but when it happened, she seemed to drop her resentments / flip a switch ( chose your word Mrs. NOP) and was willing to go the faster path towards making the M work more smoothly.
For me, I see some progress but not enough. I see some progress but new problems come up. I see an onion but don't know how many layers it has and how many layers are good, know many layers are repairable, or how many bad layers are not salvageable.
