Lou wrote: ----------------------------------------- I was wondering how you would have felt or what you would imagine if your LM was frequency was only every two weeks. How would that NOP act, feel today? What would you keep doing, what would have benn an "I tried it and it did not work so i quit." -----------------------------------------
We went through a period when the frequency was not at a 'NOP sustainable' level. I was still cranky although less so than before we started to recover our relationship, but the blowups were fairly frequent. It is documented in postings here, although I don't have a good search term for you.
Before we started resolving issues in our relationship. I would have answered you with "I would have walked". As we started addressing issues in our marriage, that attitude and the decision I had made and was prepared to see through, was altered.
My steadfast refusal to continue on as before, and MrsNOP's decision to address our marital issues with me, altered both of us, and the course of our marriage. We both ate a lot crap, and a lot of crow, but we gained our marriage back.
I don't know if I have answered your question, but I can tell you that your marriage, even if it fails, is worth fighting for. If nothing else, you will be a better person for the effort. You will also be less likely to repeat the same mistakes with a new partner.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
