Quote: "Wife, I am really having a hard time respecting you because of your spending habits. Would you be willing to work out a compromise with me so that I don't lose my respect for you?"
The answer I expect will be. "It's all about you and I am tired of being controlled." or "We are two different people, I have my needs you have yours."
It is getting easier to state my wishes and opinions and not be so concerned about the outcome.
Saying I am really having a hard time respecting you is a step I will take.
Re Chrom
Quote: you just described a perfect scene for a National Lampoon movie. I can just see OG played by Chevy Chase standing there with an exasperated look on his face in a house full of peeing cats, biting dogs, and parrots that say "I'm never going back to work."
For 2 weekends and a week of evenings, I have been replacing, trim, the flooring and painting the walls and window frames inside and outside, in the master bedroom. I finished last evening.
Within a half hour “wiener boy” the dog that pees in the house the most, cames in the bedroom and pees on a tool I has sitting be the chest of drawers. I ask BB to look at a spot on the floor. She can’t see it so I said feel around here. BB is dense when it comes to her “little lover boy” doing anything wrong. BB almost put her hand on the wet spot but she saw it and stopped. She got a mop and wiped it up but I came behind her and finished the job by rinsing the area with a damp sponge.
Chrom, does that add anything to the movie? How about dried urine on a VCR that is beginning to look like it had yellow mayo on it at one time. My new (used) flat panel monitor was sticky and I had to clean “wiener boys” markings off of it too.
The dog is outside most of the day when the weather is nice, then he comes in and if he sees/smells anything new, he marks it with urine. I am not happy about the situation but I have been peed on before by our kids.
Re HP
Quote: "You do know that you can't change her, right
I know I can’t change her HP
Quote: So, Lou, you will not separate your finances because
I am letting this spending spree play out then going for the two separate accounts.
New bedroom furniture was delivered this AM. BB is one happy gal. I remain a working observer. If I said anything other that something complimentary, it would ruin BB happiness. I got a big hug from BB for working so hard.
Anyone want to wager how long it will take “wiener boy” to pee on the new furniture? To BB “wiener boy” is the cutest 18 lb Scottie she ever saw.
More trips to the donation store. Sex to night??????????????????????????? if I manage not to show my frustrations. Maybe I need to go shopping tonight.
To BB “wiener boy” is the cutest 18 lb Scottie she ever saw. 
