C's advice: Drop the Internet. Quit reading books. Don't take crap. Do things for BB without expecting anything in return. Stay out of her money issues. If you need to, move on.
First off, good for you for going to the C on your own. Secondly, the C is probably 100% right with that list in terms of actually CHANGING your life around. Notice I didn't just say the M. Let's face it, all of us could stand to lay off the internet and R books. We use it often as a diversion from our life instead of actually improving it. We rationalize our actions by saying it is better for the R/M. Come on. It's better for US. We get support from each other, etc. But how many true success stories do we find? Not many. The C is correct that if what you are doing now is not giving you the results you want, than stop and do something different. I'm not telling you to stop posting at all. I'm still here, lol. But I am trying to look at it as a means of support and if it helps here and there to deal with my H than even better. It is not a means to an end though (a happy M). Same thing with all those R books, you can read those non-stop but if you are just reading and not applying, than what is the point. Someone very knowledgable about R who can't practice what they preach? I'm not speaking of you specifically Og_Lou, but all of us in general. Liked # 3, stay out of her crap and don't take her sh*t. That HAS to show some results. Maybe not the way you want in the M but I bet you feel better about yourself The next one: do things for BB without expecting anything in return, ok, to a point, but come on, you don't want to feel taken advantage of either, taken for granted, not respected. Fine line there. Stay out of money issues: sure, it can only lessen the conflict. And last but not least, if you need to, move on. Hopefully, it won't come to that but the fact that the option is always there may relieve some of the overwhelming tension/stress/depression associated with the M right now. Thinking of you.
But I am trying to look at it as a means of support and if it helps here and there to deal with my H than even better. It is not a means to an end though (a happy M). Same thing with all those R books, you can read those non-stop but if you are just reading and not applying, than what is the point. Someone very knowledgable about R who can't practice what they preach? I'm not speaking of you specifically Og_Lou, but all of us in general. Liked # 3, stay out of her crap and don't take her sh*t. That HAS to show some results. Maybe not the way you want in the M but I bet you feel better about yourself 
The next one: do things for BB without expecting anything in return, ok, to a point, but come on, you don't want to feel taken advantage of either, taken for granted, not respected. Fine line there. Stay out of money issues: sure, it can only lessen the conflict. And last but not least, if you need to, move on. Hopefully, it won't come to that but the fact that the option is always there may relieve some of the overwhelming tension/stress/depression associated with the M right now. Thinking of you. 
