Ahh, that's right! SD=StubbornDyke. OK, Lou, as long as you aren't the one to change her stripes, I guess it is only playing with matches, not fire. Still, I wouldn't see her without BB's consent/approval. There are still the appearances to BB to consider.
Quote: There are still the appearances to BB to consider
That is what I have to work on.
I am not one to believe in stripe changing and would not consider anything on that topic. It appears that most people here on the forum have a good charachter/moral compass.
I dunno. I think it might be good for BB to wonder what Lou is up to. Maybe Lou has a woman in every port (or a fridge full of pudding waiting for him in every city across the midwest). Maybe if Lou has too much fun on vacation without BB, she'll make sure she gets to go next time.
"I dunno. I think it might be good for BB to wonder what Lou is up to. Maybe Lou has a woman in every port (or a fridge full of pudding waiting for him in every city across the midwest). Maybe if Lou has too much fun on vacation without BB, she'll make sure she gets to go next time."
I'll get my wife to make OG some homemade banana pudding with vanilla wafers. Mmmmm!
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
Quote: I'll get my wife to make OG some homemade banana pudding with vanilla wafers./quote] BB makes the instant version about once a month. Yours sounds good.
Re SD
Quote: Maybe if Lou has too much fun on vacation without BB, she'll make sure she gets to go next time.
I don't know about that.
BB wants to be with me. Wants to continue shopping at a lesser pace, and wants the dogs in to the fray. She already said don't make her choose between the dogs or me. Mind you I like the dogs as individuals and would never do anything to them (I re-did the back stairs with them in mind) but what is proper. I spoil them sometimes, but they are like a third person in the R sometimes.
Vacation with BB: Motor home, dogs in crates inside motor home, travel to places but they have to be a little dog friendly. Start late in the day, stop often, retire early. Go to places get out walk the dogs, BB not interested in hiking to far from the motor home. Looking out the coache's window is good for most sights.
No camp out cooking unless I do it. Pudding at HairDogs. I get to do all of the driving (no problem for me). Several what if emergencies have to be pre planned. No sex, might get a UTI and we won't have insurance to pay for much of anything that is out of provider network. (thanks HMO back at home). People i want to visit are boring to her. BB misses her satelite TV, gets bored and wants to go back home.
I am far from a wild child but BB is a little bit more of a luxury kid or wants to stay home with her dogs and things she bought or wants to buy.
Maybe I am borrowing trouble but I see BB just along for the ride if I jump through her hoops first.
After I said I was going to stay out of BB's finances, she told me she ordered more pieces ($1,000) for her bedroom, to match her bed. BB got home with a reciept for $1,800. She bought some extra acessories too. Now we are looking at an area rug. I asked if it (shopping) is about to end? Reply, perty close.
I think the wisest thing you'll ever do will be to go on a killer vacation without her. Her style of vacation is ridiculous and you are right to refuse to do it this time.
Lou, I agree with the others here. Go on vacation, have a blast and don't compromise with BB if she does choose to go with you in the future. It sounds like going on vacation with her is a big pain in the a$$. I'd rather have needles poked in my eyes!!!!
Quote: It sounds like going on vacation with her is a big pain in the a$$.
I call it taking 6 suit cases when you only need 3.
Some people travel like BB wants to. We see them parked at WalMart several times a week. They rest up fron 4PM to 2 AM* and leave or move to another location. $150,000 motor homes and towing a $30,000 car. Camping fee at some camp grounds $30 and up/night.
*Local ordinance "no camping/sleeping type activities fron 2AM to 6AM on any parking lots, streets etc.
I have a C appointment on monday. I have to give up R for a while.
If anyone wants to e-mail me anything, I have out my address in my profile. Click on my name.
and the chase is on. 
