Uhhm. Isnt stubborn dyke, gay? I am assuming so because of her name. Soooo OG unless you are a lesbian, trapped in a mans body as I am, you should be ok.

I would tell BB you are being given a tour by one of your board friends. I dont believe in keeping secrets or needing to be sneaky with your spouse. I also dont see any danger here. Above board, completely honest is very satisfying.

I would have no problem meeting anyone from this board IRL. If it was one of the women, I would prefer her H there, or some friends, relatives. but wouldnt 'freak out' if it wasnt. I wouldnt do it if it had to be a secret.

I do have female friends, including married ones. I have no problem setting it straight if I feel uncomfortable with something. Better I am wrong and look like fool,(often am anyways, may as well be intentional) or we both end up embarassed around each other for awhile, then let tensions and quiet mutterings build.