Just wanted to say thanks for the New Year wishes. I know I'm late with this and I have no good excuse other than I am a DITZ! I hope that 2006 will be a great year for you as well (and at least I know you're now looking FABULOUS!)
Glad to see that for now anyway, you're little one is the center of your world. You'll never look back with regret for making that choice, but boy would you ever if you didn't! Lucky, lucky little boy..........
As far as a birthday present for your ex, take your son to the store and let him pick out a card and a present. Afterall it is supposed to be from him, right? I think that your considering his feelings in wanting to celebrate his Mom's birthday, and taking him to buy a present should only be for the purpose of how it will make him feel. She wanted you out of her life. There are no (or shouldn't be anyway) perks for wanting a divorce, and it won't amount to a hill of beans with her. Stand tough. Let her know that your caring about it being her birthday is the least she has to lose!
