Its funny that the criteria added seem to reflect the core issues in our separate R's - mine included.
I wonder if we'll be better at noticing and attending to those red flags (e.g., getting out after the 2nd, 3rd date) this time around. I imagine that it'll be hard to overlook the positives to do so.
Update Had another very nice date with Professional Lady. We're set for a kayak adventure early next week.
XW seemed to want to argue on the phone last night. I described our vacation parenting duties as 'equitable' (I arranged the schedule - 3 times to fit our various desires, and the time is split down the middle). She either is overworking again, or has the assumption that I'll watch him most of the semester break, as she became livid and ended up hanging up on me. I had shared that I was dating and was interested in one woman in particular to a mutual friend - a friend she went to lunch with yesterday, so maybe she knows? Not trying to overanalyze (where's Bruce when you need him? ), but I think I did a good job of staying calm, not following her down that cheeseless tunnel (e.g., counting up the days and hours to prove equal watching time), and reassuring myself about my position after she hung up on me. I likely could have validated her discomfort/fatigure more, but I smelled a manipulation coming on (she already had convinced me to give her Christmas Eve/early Christmas morning), and I wasn't going to step into the snare.
Time to go dark. Maybe its not the best time for even a Christmas card? She has not directly given me her address, although it was handed out to everyone at work within a recent co-worker contact info list.
), but I think I did a good job of staying calm, not following her down that cheeseless tunnel (e.g., counting up the days and hours to prove equal watching time), and reassuring myself about my position after she hung up on me. I likely could have validated her discomfort/fatigure more, but I smelled a manipulation coming on (she already had convinced me to give her Christmas Eve/early Christmas morning), and I wasn't going to step into the snare.