I'm not Catholic either, my views are a mix of Wiccan and Spiritualism. I do believe in God, though.
I think that true marriage of the heart has very little to do with religion. Couples have been uniting and having ceremonies to establish this fact since they drew line drawings on the walls of caves. I think that although the church can be comforting, it is also dogmatic and brings a lot of red tape to love.
That said, I don't agree with divorce as if the people genuinely love each other, love is unconditional, it doesn't change when circumstances do - REAL love, that is.
I loved Andy when he loved me, when he didn't. I loved him when he was ill and when he was healthy. I loved him with money and without. It doesn't matter what happens if you truly love another person. You care for them more than yourself, that hurting them would hurt you.
As Shakesphere put it, 'love is an ever fix'ed mark that looks on tempists and is never swayed.' - he put it really well there.
If the other partner, like Andy for instance, ends up not loving that person it's because their love was superficial and conditional to start with.
And now when I look back and think how he's treated me, I think to myself I am better off without his kind of love.
But I do view D as a way of disposing of people - emotional murder, if you like. It would be like me giving birth to a baby and then saying, 'no, you're a boy, you're not what I expected so I'll give you up'.
A husband or wife is just as much a relation as a son or daughter and in my opinion shouldn't be thrown away as if there was no such R. If you have children with that person, then it's the children that suffer - look at mine without their mother and DD4 living without her sisters, so you should do EVERYTHING to stay together once there are children.
But it has very little to do with churches and 'God's Law'- that just comes across as self-righteous.
