I get you, but I don't either one of us fit the category of 'workaholic.' Some careers just require 60 hr weeks or more. Its how one experiences those hrs (invigorating or not) and what one does with the other time that seems to make or break an R. My XW would tend to take work home with her to continue working rather than hang out and be with me. I tended to press thru my work as quickly as I could to have time for other things, and I seem to still be in that pattern.
I honestly don't know that much about this new person, but she does a lot of fun stuff, which suggests a similar balance. She was able to go "deep" in convo without shying away from topics, including D, the nature of a good M, religion, kids, career vs. family. It was just talk but it was nice for me to have a convo like that.
No response yet from XW about my suggested holiday break visitation schedule for S6. The few contacts with her show that she's come home with a great deal of frustration/anger, so I'm staying clear. There is no reason to see each other until we transfer S6 on Friday. Amazing how time changes things. I found myself crying after speaking with S6 on the phone last night, struck by sadness after thinking about my boy and the loss of his family.
I can recover and find someone wonderful, but if so, he'll always have a split family existence. Yet its not my choice anymore.
