Yeah, I know. I took the same 6th grade sex ed class (j/k) Yet a jar of vaseline just doesn't do it for me. I'm just too sold on the beauty of mutual love-making. Self-pleasure seems too orgasm- or climax-focused, and this was a big issue in my M, as XW's low interest led to her pressuring for low-interactive 'quickie' type intercourse, while I was trying to introduce us to longer, more relationally-focused in depth interactions, and started dabbling in Tantra.
I think while even alone, masturbation would set me back even further in the direction the last few years of the R did. It is a healthy choice for most, but for me it goes against my growth directions for those historical reasons.
But I see your point. Right now, I'm still doing the crazy stuff - like last night, running 5 miles, then a cold shower. Reading stuff like Deida's writings on male sexuality really help me to celebrate my sexuality - even while abstinent - and especially in the presence of attractive women.
P.S. I'm merely venting at times. I'm not quite about to lose it. I don't think!
Yet a jar of vaseline just doesn't do it for me. I'm just too sold on the beauty of mutual love-making. Self-pleasure seems too orgasm- or climax-focused, and this was a big issue in my M, as XW's low interest led to her pressuring for low-interactive 'quickie' type intercourse, while I was trying to introduce us to longer, more relationally-focused in depth interactions, and started dabbling in Tantra.
