Good to hear from you! I feel the same way in terms of dates - things are definitely better thought out than in my younger years. I'm staying thoughtful and in prayer about my XW and S6 and myself. I have 2 interesting possibilities for dates, but I'm going to insist in keeping things slow and light.
XW called a couple of times this weekend to talk. Officially, just wanted to chat about a couple of things regarding S6 and to ask me about a work meeting she missed, then went into light talk about herself, the holidays, and her and S6's upcoming visit to see her paternal Iowan family later this week. She's been spending a good amount of time with her father, something she missed in her youth due to his very heavy workload.
I notice my changes in many subtles ways. We were running 10 min late to Mass, and I was hurrying S6 along. In the past, I would have stayed upset or feeling guilty about our tardiness (or would have blamed XW internally for being late). This time I stopped in my tracks and said to S6 - "Are you still hungry?" When he said yes, I decided to take him to a local bakery for a cookie and some milk, with us making a later Mass ontime. It allowed for a comfortable, less stressed worship experience, and in a very valuable manner, the chance for the two of us to hang out on comfy lounge chairs together just talking about life and small things dressed up and relaxed.
S6 and I had a work friend and his 2 sons over to play this afternoon. The father and I are a bit awkward around each other due to a pulled business partnership. But I feel good about my part in the decision, as I found myself not trusting him. Better now than after some sort of business commitment. Maybe DBing is helping me to avoid many future forms of D! The afternoon was fun regardless, watching 3 little guys run around with lightsabers. I played a great, big Yoda, chasing them around the yard and house, depending on their latest goodguy or badguy affiliation.
The afternoon was fun regardless, watching 3 little guys run around with lightsabers. I played a great, big Yoda, chasing them around the yard and house, depending on their latest goodguy or badguy affiliation. 