Quote: Take your time, move slowly and pray, a lot. Those have all proven to be good tools for you in the past.
Very timely advice! To be honest, my libido is going crazy lately, with me noticing my attraction to women even 20 yrs my senior. I know its just loneliness, but may also be the effects of working out and feeling better about myself and being in a better mood.
Prayer and moving slowly in any direction will help me to avoid missteps. I miss general companionship unique to being with a woman. Yet I've discovered that I'm pretty good at taking care of Gabe alone. I want this companionship, but don't truly need it. My R with God has been very fruitful in the past, and I need to get back to developing it further. Maybe this is a good fit with Advent and approaching Christmas.
XW is watching me. I posted an online personal ad - just to see what might happen, and she has visited it at least 4 times/wk (the site shows who visited - I don't think she realizes this yet). She noted to a mutual friend that I'm having lots of fun out in the dating world. Yet we've been in a nice friendly state. I've noticed a pattern of her bristling/defensiveness having (at least in part)some anticipation of anger or negativity on my part, but when I act friendly despite her unfriendliness, she returns to being friendly as well - if not in the moment, then by our next contact. She seems to appreciate me checking in on her and S6's well-being as well. As Wes noted to another, its important for me to work to be a stable, friendly presence rather than oscillate with my moods and to be seen as unpredictable.
On a side note, did I mention that I get to coach S6 in basketball in a winter league starting this Jan? How cool is that?! Bball was my favorite sport growing up, and I can't wait to shepherd him and a bunch of other munchkins on the court to teach them the basics of the game.
