Thanks for posting. I think you're right about letting go further, whether about her parenting (still struggle with those differences at times) or about mere thoughts regarding 'us'.
That's interesting about SO and his convent suggestion. XW actually suggested that maybe I consider the priesthood! In a slightly lighthearted way, but I think it would be easier on the ego of the WAS for them to know that noone else will enjoy or create s/t beautiful with the LBS. Both confirms their claims of being 'no-good' and protects from any remnant feelings like jealousy.
I have not told XW about my love for her or remaining feelings for her in some time (maybe since May/June). I think it would be counterproductive, given past experience with her. Plus, I'm past that level of pursuit. It would be up to her to change and do an about-face.
I met an attractive intelligent woman who works in finances and we're just talking lightly and planning a few dates. Its important for me to move on at this point, while keeping some part of the door cracked open. I'll be honest with this new person about my stance.
