Your positive attitude and strength continues to come through in your posts. You mentioned that you have been reminded with all the tough and low points in the last year, that you have survived and even improved through it all. Gabe... you ARE doing great! You should be proud of yourself during this past year. You have made alot of great changes within yourself. I am impressed with the way you are handling things. And, I think you are making some great choices in how you are dealing with your divorce. You are an inspiration and proof that no matter what, if you work on you... regardless of how your M turned out... you have become a much stronger person. Although you may not have "saved" this M to your XW, you have created a wonderful "new" Gabe that will make the right woman very happy for the rest of her life--- whether it is in M or in a serious relationship... I truly believe this.
You also shared that you are consistently thinking about someone better entering your life rather than "what if's" regarding your XW... There is no doubt in my mind that someday you can have the R you dream of... With time, you will find someone truly wonderful, whose values and views on life match your own even better than XW's do... Someone you can have a more balanced R with... Someone who will support you and give you a true example of what a loving R should be. I have faith in a happy future for you. I hope that you can continue to be happy about who you are and realize that your XW has made the worst decison of her life... Your XW might be trying to convince herself that she made the right decision, but I do not think she truly believes it.
Gabe... No one ever plans on getting a divorce. Unfortunately, many people enter into a divorce too easily. But, you did not. I know that it is disappointing. And, I know this divorce is not what you wanted. But, your life can still be what you want it to be. You deserve to be in a R with someone who thinks you are incredible, someone who is willing to work through problems with you. You will be happy again with someone who can accept you and your love without conditions. You will make the right woman a wonderfully happy one! One that will adore you for who you are and what you offer the R--- what you offer the world... A caring, loving, and intelligent man who has experienced a great load of pain and has come out the other end a stronger, secure man!
As you continue to apply all of the knowledge of your self-growth within the past year, I truly believe you deserve to have the happiest life possible...
Thinking of you, Gabe! -OC Kim
