Wow thats a lot of red, apparently your bleeding all over the thread now, glad it locked and I had to start another.....
I let x go alone to another city to help OM find an apt. every weekend. It also didn't help that I trusted to a fault. She began violating my boundaries and I didn't put a stop to it for fear of looking insecure and losing her. I became weakened and my subsequent tight leash paranoia inability-to-process-A reactions exacerbated this weakness
Well you get it, Fear led you to doing the exact wrong thing. Becoming major wussyman.
the question is do you want to do anything about it, and can you control yourself, fear, insecurity, leaning psycologically,(if I put an [H] in that word one more time I am going to rip my finger off....need to go type psych 1000 times....) and with body language,(no leaning) as-if OM, enforce boundaries without hesitation,showing displeasure and disapproval without emotion i.e. anger, and be cocky sincere, and humorously macho. Lots of humorously macho....
Those are the questions. I gave it whirl, messed it up (maybe) with road to intimacy potholes, maybe found out there wasnt true remorse.... Is your WAS 2 times with same OM also? I look (almost) at everyone of my failures as really a opportunity to see how much x cared for me. I know how I overlooked her 'failures'.
When you get around her, phone or in person those chemicals make it hard to lean back. If you are doing this out of neediness you wont be able to. Think about what your reasons are for it. Your internal reasons will show thru every time. If it is to assuage your ego, forget it, let her go. If it is to test out your new found knowledge, forget it let her go. If you think you cant find another, forget it let her go.
I loved my x, I am gonna stand here like the crag I am and find out if she loves me. I am waiting to see desire, remorse, and change. Right up untill I get my POP. If I have value it will overcome female initiation reluctance. If I dont.... I dont. I will do the 'right thing', but I wont be addicted to my struggle.
making my Stigmata wounds open up and bleed for real this time not useful if you want to go get her. In sales there is a idea called Speed of Implementation. The most succesful people are able to take a new idea and immediately put it too use. Most people want to mull and chew and tentatively put a toe in the water. Sticking a knife in the wound to explore the pain is not helpful.
GAL. NOW. GAL is highly important to attraction anyways. Flex some figurative muscle and make some explorations out of your Intro. flex some real muscle too.
(nice tie-in eh?) yes but if you point it out I cant.... oh yeah I am not sure how I feel about your dissembling of my comments.... I like it when you further detail and expound for the benefit of the men, I get busy/lazy and dont always give reasons, but on my subtle pokes....mmm not so sure. Ibiza is in Spain so I didnt miss the latinos, and my x was Pacific Islander, (talk about a passionate FOO ... whew) often mistaken for Asian, I used to call her my 'Ornamental' when she got dressed up, LMAO..... you missed the primary poke anyways, maybe on purpose, Good. I was pretty pleased with that one it encompassed about 4 references. Thanks for defending my depth, though it assumes I care what women think.......stop trying to wussify me.
