Sometimes as hard as it is honey, they have to feel the pain to get to a better place...also to make change. I know this from seeing Dave the other day...he's been in an extreme amount of pain, you could just see it and hear it. Trying to make things look great, when truly they weren't...but if you coddle them (ask Chuck the DBC), enable them, rescue them, then they have no experience of the pain and work through it themselves. They have to make their own choices, decisions...hard as it is and especially for me since he is drinking a great deal these days...depression leads to drinking leads to depression...evil circle.
Someone on another site told me that I needed to be a lighthouse...showing them the way home...so very true, so very true.
Just concentrate on you...you have control over yourself. Be happy, be someone that they want to be with...misery loves company, so you don't want to be miserable...be attractive by your happiness.
