SS,
I'm sorry you've had to come to this board but you will meet (?) some great people who have awesome advice. I'd suggest checking out Kim Down Under's posts as well as Horse Lover's and Kismet's posts. They are great DBers. KDU and her S are starting to piece things together and we just heard great news from Horse Lover. Kismet, is an awesome DBer who has turned tragedy into strength.
Thanks for the kudos on my thread however don't be optimistic for me yet. Good luck and post often.