Sam, thanks for posting about codependent. It is very interesting. I sure sound like one of those. I wanted to "control" b/c I felt I knew "better" and my way was "better", as STBXH never really thought of anything and is a very weak person.
It is interesting, though, b/c before STBXH, I dated guys who were always very aggressive and ambitious, and definitely who wanted to be in charge. STBXH was the first guy I was with that I had to be in charge. I did not like that at first at all - I felt like STBXH was not manly enough. I wanted a guy whom I could rely on. But I guess I grew to like my controlling ability...
Again, thanks for sharing and hope you still come back here to update.
