It's me Sam. I decided to start a new thread. My computer has been acting weird again and the only way I could log on was with a new account name. After I log on, I can't get very far without the computer forgetting who I am. I think it has something to do with "cookies". It is frustrating!
Thanks for posting JDD. I haven't posted because I have been pretty busy and there really hasn't been much to report. I have been busy with my new job, decorating my new place and moving forward with my life. I still talk to ex daily and things seem to be more at peace. The only thing stopping us his addiction.
I am at the point where I am going on with my life and if I happen to meet someone, I won't let ex hold me back. I know he can do this, but I just hope he does it in a reasonable amount of time.
I bought a few new pieces of furniture, and I told ex how much I spent. We are both pretty frugal, and it just kills me to spend large sums of money. I always get a little panicked when I do spend money like that. However, I am really excited right now. I told ex hoping he would say that I am just being cheap and that I didn't seem to spend too much. I forgot that he is just as frugal. He seemed to get a little stressed. I took this as a positive because he sees me spending my money as me spending our money.
He was not all that cheerful when I called and then when I told him what I had spent his sullen mood continued. I then emailed him pictures of what I had bought. He got very excited after that and the rest of the conversation was great.
He really liked what I had bought and then started discussing how they will look neat in our home together. He started to say yeah, we can use that piece in one of the spare bedrooms and that one in the breakfast area. I couldn't send him a picture of one of the pieces of furniture that I bought because I couldn't find it on the internet. It was really late, and we said our goodbyes. He ended it with, if you happen to find a picture of that other piece of furniture, call me back tonight because I would like to see it. He seemed really excited about doing all the home stuff with me again. I think one of the things he enjoyed about being married was having a woman around to decorate things and do homemaking sorts of things. We used to have a lot of parties for our family and friends, and he just loved that. He mentioned how it was like pulling teeth to get his family and friends to come and see his new home. He then went on about how the people who lived in his house before him used to have get togethers all the time. It was a really good conversation.
We will be seeing each other next weekend. Ex is coming into town for a business meeting. We will meet for dinner and go from there. I'll keep you all posted, but it won't be until the middle of Thanksgiving week. Take care.
