Well I certainly don't want to usurp Corri's point, but I would just say that I think what she is getting at is that sex, EC, whatever is not something that you should try to acheive by doing lots of things for the person. That attitude can get you in a rut. The better attitude is to simply do things for the person because you love them, not because you expect love in return. Again it is that darn expectation thing again. You should expect that in a healthy relationship there is sex, EC, etc., but you shouldn't expect specific actions from specific actions. I will say though if your S is not returning love (hopefully by speaking your LLs), then you should question the health of the relationship, and in extreme cases whether it needs to be terminated.
I guess what I am trying to say, is I wouldn't like the reverse. I would not like for my wife to give sex to me in expectation that I will do something later for her (clean the house, do the dishes, etc.) I want sex from her to be an expression of her love for me. Ideally I would like her to want me, but even if she is just doing it because she knows that is what I want would be a very positive thing. Lots of EC. Am I making any sense? Can you see how the whole buying/selling thing you mention is connected? I just don't see that as a very healthy way to treat each other. Maybe I'm just farting against the wind though.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
