Yeah, Cobra's right on target with the "weight of the world" being yet another defense. My W does this by saying that x, y, and z are going on, and so she is feeling "especially" stressed, and she'll feel better about ML once she's not stressed. And yes, it likely gives her a feeling of power and importance, while it protects her from feeling vulnerable.
Dang, Cobra, what is that book?
Of course, the pisser is that there is very likely NOTHING we can do to change anything about this. It's up to them to figure it out. And all we can change is our attitude. Sigh.
Superdave: I liked the description of your wife's "(rather violent) grab of my midrif bulge that had me leaping for the ceiling in fright - sensual she aint!" You have to give her some points for trying, right?
