Cobra, She certainly did fancy me at first (I'd say for 6 months) and as a result I think my brain got wired in to loving her and that's the way it's stayed. I'm quite a laid back sort of guy but she on the other hand tends to carry the weight of the world around and our first couple of years were beset with worries such as her father being ill and dying and personality clashes at work. It seemed insensitive to bring up marital problems when so much was worrying her. I was always waiting for her to get over this problem or that problem. It set the pattern for our life I suppose. We had another long convo on Saturday night - because I made a move (even though I am only allowed to on Fridays) and (although I got rejected) she said she would try harder. She is trying harder and has given me some spontaneous cuddles although I get the feeling that they are of the order of [She thinks to her self] "I'm supposed to be trying so I'd better cuddle Hub". I did tell her that I long to feel her hands all over my body and to be fair she did put her hands on my tummy this morning in bed. When I say "Put her hands on..." it was more like a (rather violent) grab of my midrif bulge that had me leaping for the ceiling in fright - sensual she aint! SD - You guys cheer me up.