So, she doesn't "fancy" you anymore...and hasn't for 27 years?? WTF? (That's American for "blimey!") I actually did a bit of research on this word (fancy) because it is not a word often used in the USA for the connotation she gave it. It can range from meaning a feeling of amorous desire, to a synonym for "like."
I'm thinking that she said, basically, "I no longer feel any amorous desire for you, and haven't, for 27 years." While that's easier to take than "I don't like you, and haven't for 27 years," it is, nevertheless a horrible thing to hear.
And let's be fair, it's a horrible thing to feel, too. But, her choice not to bring it up on the eve of the wedding didn't just affect her...it affected you, too. And notice, she still waves off the responsibility of her going through with the wedding, and not mentioning that she no longer fancied you, as a decision made based on PRESSURE she felt from YOU and YOUR family.
My W has said some hateful things, usually in the midst of an argument. If she said this to me, I would be tempted to pack up and leave. It's just so FINAL.
I know you're not asking for advice, but the "get a life" philosophy seems applicable, as does the "dontgiveashititus."
You're not a wife-beater, are you? Are you emotionally abusing her? Have you done everything you reasonably could to earn a decent living, raise a healthy family, keep a safe home, contribute emotionally to the marriage/family? If you can look in the mirror and honestly answer "yes" to these questions, then you're a good man, SD. You are better than most men. And while "deserve" is, perhaps, too strong a word, you certainly "should" have a wife who fancies you.
At the very least you should have a woman in your life who has not shattered the illusion/hope that she fancies you.
