Mariposa, You have hit the nail on the head for me. My W does behave as if she is my Mother. She is strong willed, opinionated, critical and always gets her way and always has the last word on everything. A while back D17 observed that she never takes the blame for anything - I have never heard her say sorry. If she accidentally kicks you it's because you were in the way. I can't imagine her being HD with anyone though. I have tried talking straight with her many times but she just will not accept any rational conversation on the subject. She'll say something like "Stop giving me psychobabble" and gets angry. I have not told her of my formulating plans yet. I got back from Devon on Wednesday and looked into her eyes... and you know the rest. The ol'HD starts to rise etc. I have been keeping a distance though and tonight being Friday I am waiting to see if she will do or say anything. When I was newly married I assumed that she would gradually relax into it and was prepared to wait a while for her. Except nothing ever improved and the Mothering relationship took root. It's hard to see a way out of this. I suspect that Hairdog, GGB, Choc, ZBube, Cemar are all similarly mothered.
