perhaps my sitch is a little different then. MrsGGB keeps herself busy with a zillion things around the house and around town. I get whatever time is left at the end of the day, which often is none. QT to me is time spent intimately, not necessarily physically. MrsGGB is not prone to sharing her feelings, and our conversations generally revolve around what the kids are doing or gossip she's picked up on the neighbors. I miss the time I used to spend with ex GFs talking about feelings, hopes, fears...ie, getting to know the other inside out. I think the physical side is an outgrowth of this, or it can be, but without the EC, the physical is kind of empty. I got along for a long time with a more or less one-sided EC, but this summer that crumbled when it really sunk in that she is not likely to ever allow the level of intimacy I am longing for.
For me, WOA and AOS might as well be ancient greek. I try to speak those languages, but too much seems to get lost in the translation. I do see her recently trying to speak PT language, but it is also getting garbled in the translation, and there is none of the QT dialect that I need to hear either.
