GGB,

No, I know you didn't say it was a bad thing That was more coming from my own perspective, I used to view it as a bad thing...don't anymore.

I've also learned not to try to pull myself out of it. I saw the same thing you have...my attempts would result in my H backing back off. In his mind things were back to ok again. Now, I'm not worrying about pulling myself out of this. I've come to realize, he needs to see this as much as I probably need to experience it. He needs to see that when I told him this would happen, that I wasn't just making it up....it's an actual consequence now. This is something that he can turn around, but he's going to have to make an effort....and as I've told him, not just a one time temporary effort.

I'm hoping for you though that this doesn't last long...because I agree, it's not a pleasant place to be...especially when you long for your R to be so much better.

GEL

Well behaved women rarely ever make history!