Quote: That leaves them thinking wait a minute what's going on here and that's when they start to come closer to figure things out.
Like a dog sniffing around. Sorry, the analogy just came to me:)
That happened too. Sweet as pie. Finally, fulfilling part of our S agreement she had neglected for almost 2 years. Only, my 180 was not to relax this time. All business.
It took about a week and then she bared the "canines" again. (legal action)
Followed immediately by manipulating the children into something she wanted knowing it would bother me. (breaking standing agreement)
Just wanted to post a little ditty from my XW that's posted on her blog. I don't know who it refers to, probably an internet love or perhaps "John Mayer", who knows. Ya know, it is so much easier to love someone you don't know than one you do. It's knowing them that makes it get hard.
Quote: Have you ever loved someone so much, it hurt ~ but in a good way?
I don't know that I have ever felt so blessed. I'd like to shout it from the mountain top. I love you. I love you. I love you.
You mean the world to me. It's there. It's amazing. It's deep rooted in me.
Peace.
Funny how you can love someone so much it hurts, say that to the person, and then say "I never loved you". :P It's also interesting that it was 11 months ago she was saying the same thing about a "man" she only knew from e-mails that turned out to be a woman. Remarkable how easy she falls in love.
Anyway, her drama is not mine, on to more important things. Love is a stupid subject. I had so much fun on Friday night. I went all by my lonesome to a restaurant/bar and started talking to a group next to me, two girls and a guy. They were so nice. It's refreshing being around people that aren't emotionally closed off. They invited me to join them at this other bar which I did. That was fun. One of the girls was quite interesting and interested in me and I'll leave it at that. Oh, she was an actual, real-live, non-internet person.
Yesterday Christmas shopping and hanging out with my ex step-kids along with recovering from a hangover. I did talk to this new acquaintance. We'll see.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Saturday I went to watch my step-S play b-ball--it's still a work in progress but he's learning, then he came over to play games on the 'puter and my step-D went shopping with me. I had a great time. I gave her some money to do some shopping. There are some great lessons about Christmas that can be learned from kids. For one, she made the money go a long way and secondly, she got a lot of joy out of looking for presents for others. It was great seeing her thrilled with her purchases. Then I came home and they hung out with me for quite a while. I had made plans for a movie and it was cute how they wanted to go along...they would just watch something else.
This may be the last year they are in town and I'm feeling sad. Eventually there will be a new step-dad or at the very least they'll be far away and will move on with their lives as kids do. They are sweet kids and I wish I'd appreciated that sooner. But that's water under the bridge and I can only take advantage of times I see them now.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
I'm sorry. Isn't there a way you can maintain contact with your step-kids? In the States, step-fathers have rights, don't they? Can't you request with XW that you still wish to have them from time to time?
Don't know what else to suggest as I've never been in your sitch.
It's knowing them that makes it get hard. 