I love this! It is a great reminder for all of us as to what we should and probably do already know. I have printed this off and will read it from time to time. This is kind of like a public service message, COOL!
On the surface I am nice to my husband but a friendship, hm, no not really. I feel that for someone who is as passive/aggressive as the man that I was married to, being friends would in his mind be saying that what he did to not only me, but to my kids was ok and it will NEVER be ok. I wasn't put here to lessen his guilt, no can do.
BigAl, my husband never showed any signs of remorse in the beginning either, but 3 years later it's a whole different ballgame. When things don't turn out as they envisioned, they start to think about what they did. For the first time in this whole mess I am seeing the flip side. It's sad but I have to keep myself at bay in order not to get sucked into his sadness.
Honestly, I don't know how a spouse who never wanted this can go on and be friends. Oh it's one thing to be cordial and to make it peaceful for the kids, but quite another to be friends with the person that broke your heart. If anyone knows the answer to this pass it on. Oh nevermind, I really have no interest in letting that happen. Way too much water under the bridge!
It takes a long time to get any real normalicy back into our lives. To me a friendship would only be a constant reminder. Besides I wouldn't have someone for a friend that treated me in this way. So what's the point?
The next time, I won't be so eager to take that leap of faith. There's a whole lot more to consider and I don't ever want to be in this position again. AMEN!
