Friday afternoons

[Just_Me]

Thanks LB for your insight. Trust is a major issue. I've already experienced how it is to look at the next relationship and wonder how long before she takes off; keeping some of my heart back so that when she does I won't get hurt. That causes problems too. Your partner will notice if you're not quite "with the program". Funny thing is that I resisted giving my heart away and when I finally did, exactly what I was protecting against happened.

Anyway, here's the daily OM. Quite timely really as we discuss relationships with either new partners or our old ones. And it goes along with what I was previously saying, my XW is not capable of enhancing the relationship.

December 7, 2005
Power Of Union
Entering Into Partnership
The purpose of partnership is to create something greater than we can create alone. Not because of any deficiency or incompleteness in us, but because each of us is unique, with our own talents and abilities, and in partnership we increase the efforts and talents available for creating something meaningful together. All partnerships, whether romantic, creative, or professionally-based, can be powerful relationships for personal growth. In partnership we harness the power of union.

It is important to choose our partnerships consciously. Sometimes forged quickly during times of need, we may find ourselves rushing into unions with perhaps not the clearest intentions. Partnerships created from those starting point might serve our immediate needs, but the repercussions of a union so quickly fostered without much thought can be difficult to recover from. Granted, there is something to learn from every relationship, but looking to another to fix or complete us can turn a partnership into a dependent bond. If we can stay clear about what we want and what we need in a partnership, while staying grounded and remembering that we are our own source of happiness and fulfillment, we can create partnerships that support and enhance the best of who we are.

Everyone in our lives is a mirror reflecting back the parts we love and dislike about ourselves. If we have the courage to recognize our reflections in each other, we can grow through our partnerships. A partnership that offers both acceptance of who we are and an opportunity for personal transformation can be fertile ground for growing a healthy, lasting union. When we find this kind of partnership, we are more likely to want to keep it, invest in it, and nurture it.
Life is a collaborative effort. Much of what we do can be enhanced through partnership. Together we are stronger because our personal power is multiplied by two. Through partnership we experience the joys of working, living, and loving together.