I think that just for the mere fact that we have all ended up here on this board proves that we are much stronger people than we would ever have imagined.
We certainly have much love in us left to give. We have proved in most cases to be pretty selfless and more importantly we value relationships.
Trust is a very hard thing to get back after it's been snatched from us by a person that we loved, but we do know that it is possible. This so worried me, but I don't dwell on that anymore. I try to take every relationship as it comes. Being on this board has helped me to understand how naive I have always been. If someone said so, then it must be, no further explanation needed. Now I am jaded and facing my own North Star, which to me means that if I see red flags or it doesn't feel right, then that's because it isn't and only I can know what's right for me. If a relationship doesn't feel right, it doesn't take me very long to understand this and walk away before it hurts.
I also have come to believe that there is someone out there that wants to be there for us. Someone that will cherish us the ways we were meant to be cherished. When it has becomes obvious to us that the person that we thought we were sharing ourlives with or were meant to, doesn't reciprocate or even emotionally abuses us with their lying and cheating, it's more than time to cut and run!
To me life is about loving and being loved. Whether that means finding that special person or being happy with our choice to fly solo, we owe it to ourselves to surround ourselves with people that will enrich our lives and make us want to be the best that we can be.
Personally, I don't believe that I will be by myself forever, but hey, that's just me! If someone chooses another route to their North star, well that's cool too. As long as we take responsibility for for our own happiness without looking to others to fill that void, we're headed in the right direction!
