Well, we've already done 50th time, and believe me, most of the time I don't react, but it's there, underneath everything. I dwell on it, it upsets me. Even if I never reacted ever, it would always upset me. He's not just a man, he's the father of my children. He will always have a deep impact on me.
Anyone I was with would have to put up with that and with him being mean to me.
And when I said I'm not a feminist, I meant old-style feminism, where all men are bastards, being a housewife is a waste of potiential etc. I happen to love men, love penises, and think that being a housewife is a really important job. In fact, I think it's so important that women ought to be paid by the government to do it.
I believe that the rampent divorce rate is in part, due to old sytle feminism where to assert your women's rights you *have* to go out to work, where it's beneth you to cook your husband a meal, where in parenting he is thought of as just the same as you.
Well, that's why so many M's fail, because no one has a clearly defined role anymore, because women are trying to do too much and not getting enough support from their husbands, because the women aren't being proper wives and giving their husbands a decent sex life if the SSM forum is anything to go by.
I had to fight for months to keep my newborn baby, I had to go to court to assert my right to breast feed my own baby, because Andy was thought of as 'equal' in terms of parenting. Tosh, no way. That's why I am anti-feminism.
Real feminism teaches women to salute their role as women, and not have to constantly assert themselves because they have some kind of penis envy.
I am proud to be a woman. I love my feminity. I am proud to work, but also even prouder to have stayed at home with my kids. I don't care if I am standing in a kitchen with an apron on, pregnant. I LOVE being pregnant, I like cooking and I don't want any man taking MY role away from me.
Real feminism teaches women how to communicate with men effectively so that both parties get what they need from the R, it doesn't teach them to fight for their 'rights' at the expense of their man's feelings and their M.
Real feminism recognises that men have feelings too, that aren't just erections.
