GG, I can't disagree with anything you wrote regarding how tied we are and the difficulties in starting up again. I have forgiven my W I am cooperative as I can be but I still find myself biting my tongue more than I should given the length of time we have been separated. It seems that sometimes, the WA just will not let you go peacefully.
However, JM is right. Just because the problems with new Rs seem quite challenging is no reason not to try. Although the D rate is high, it is not 100% There are many loving people looking for a second chance and have and will do the hard work.
There is no hurry. I used to think about the problems you mentioned. I still do. I just know that it will work its way out if I'm honest with my future partner and she with me. What's the worst that can happen? I get my heart broken again! In other words...status quo. Been there, done that and got the T-shirt (with the divorce decree emblazened on it)
